How To Tell Your Parents You Have a Boyfriend
Are you a teenager with your first boyfriend probably, or an adult with quite a long years of relationship with your partner? In either case, you might be feeling scared or uncomfortable about sharing the news of your relationship with your parents. That’s completely okay. Sharing such huge news can be intimidating, but if you move ahead in the right way, you can share the news effectively, and parents can accept it happily. Here, we’ve listed down a few ways to tell your parents you have a boyfriend.
Ways to tell your parents you have a boyfriend
Put it down in writing
If you’re scared to share the news of your relationship with your parents, you can write down the things you’re willing to say before actually saying it to them. In this way, you can know what you want to say and how you want to say it to present your relationship in the best way possible. So, when it’s time to say it to your parents, you can confidently say it in front of them. While writing down your thoughts, you can also anticipate your parents’ response and know-how they might react to this particular news.
Practicing how to deliver the news
When it’s time to deliver the news to your parents, you might feel quite apprehensive. That’s very normal to feel so. So, before actually delivering the news, you can practice for a while and be confident enough while saying it in front of them. You can also use your mirror for practicing purposes, know your hand gestures and all as well. Furthermore, you can also take help from someone you trust, that could be your best friend or your cousin, and tell them not to reveal it to your parents before you do it yourself.
Determine who to tell first
You might have a parent you feel closer to or can share anything with them more comfortably than the other one. In that case, it would be best to break the news with them first and clear the way for efficiently talking to the other parent. This approach would be more helpful to you if you’re a teenager and trying to break the news of your first boyfriend with your parents. On the other hand, if you’re comfortable talking to both of your parents, then you can share the news with both of them at the same time.
Choose a good time to deliver the news
Before delivering the news, make sure to pick a good time. They don’t want to hear it out if they’re stressed enough or not in a good mood at all. You can also ask them when would be a good time to talk to them and say it afterward. Make sure to choose a time when the house is calm, both parents are not in a bad mood, and you are talking to them comfortably at that time.
Know how you feel
Are you scared about your parents getting mad at you because you’re dating someone? Also, you might think that they won’t approve of the person you’re dating at the time. Or maybe you want to keep it a secret and not tell it to anyone else. So, it would be better to know your feelings before approaching your parents and telling them about your relationship.
Let’s get it over with
Once you start the conversation with your parents, make sure to complete it in one go. You can use soft words to initiate the conversation and tell them everything you want to afterward. You can start by addressing how much you love them, and you don’t want to make them mad at you or feel bad about anything. Then, you can gradually tell them the truth about your boyfriend.
Tell them why you’re ready to date
You can also tell them why you think you’re ready to date. Maybe you’re already in high school, and most of your friends have started dating already. You can use it as an example in front of your parents. But, they might not take “Everyone else is dating” in a positive way. Furthermore, you can say that from a young age, if you start dating, you can get to know them much better in the coming days and know every side of their as the year passes by.
Be open to compromise
Your parents might not want you to date someone or meet someone every day, every time. In that case, you have to be go for negotiation. You can tell them that you only meet them during school or go on group dates with your friends. In that way, your parents feel less tense and might allow you to meet your loved one quite often.
Discuss your partner
Talk about your boyfriend with your parents quite often. You can also tell them about his family and what you like most about him. Furthermore, you can address a few of his good qualities, which can help them know how he is. Your parents might ask you many questions about him, and it would be better to answer each of those questions politely. You can let your parents know about your boyfriend’s good relationship with his family.
Don’t keep it a secret
If you want your parents to accept your boyfriend and let you be with him, the best way is to tell them yourself rather than letting them know from outsiders. If some outsiders come to them and tell them about your relationship, they might feel like you’ve been hiding a lot from them and might not accept your relationship as well. So, it’s better to tell them on your own when the right time comes.
So, what are you waiting for now? Just go for it! Tell your parents that you have a boyfriend and let them know who he is. This way, you can win their trust and make your relationship grow better in an efficient way.